Bpd women dating married man
He thinks that loving someone else’s woman will save him from this fear of intimacy. In my mind, this is an opportunity for growth because triangles are not good for people.But for the ‘other man’ this is a painful transition from an illusory relationship with a married woman in a triangle with a married man to a period of being alone again where some serious work can be done on his love life (if he’s up for it).If the ‘other man’ gets attached he will inevitably at some point start needing more from the married woman. My heart goes out to him more than any one else in this arrangement because he is usually the one who gets disturbed first and has more to lose.He may start thinking about asking her to leave her husband. He could be thrown out of the triangle and the married couple could end up fixing their relationship, this could happen.
Something always goes wrong, or at least it should, because triangles usually end up hurting people more than anything else.
The ‘other man’ gets painfully left out, not yet knowing that is the best thing that could happen to him.
All three people in this triangular arrangement have their issues.
In other instances his defenses are so thick he doesn’t read the signs at least consciously.
Personally, I think most if not all married people know on some level if a spouse is cheating, but that’s just my belief.