Choosing an online dating user name
Connect with Carmelia: Facebook, Twitter, Blog Carmelia Ray is an online dating and matchmaking expert with over 22 years of experience in the dating industry.She is a public speaker, author and an IDCA certified dating coach.And when your ideal partner is scrolling through hundreds of names – Sally102, Jen NYC1, Lawyer Gal – a great username can be the very reason that someone contacts you. And you become convinced that usernames don’t matter. In my opinion, a username should be a pun or a play on words. Wine Not – for the wine aficionado Lady Go Go – for the world traveler Bach To Bach – for the classical music enthusiast Tender Legal – for the soft-hearted lawyer See the common thread?Most people take one of two wrong tacks when coming up with an online dating username:1) Putting ZERO thought into it: Bill10247, Claire T, Ally Cat2) Putting minimal thought into it, using a literal description: Tall Doctor, Gorgeous Goddess, Fun2Be Around The problem with these efforts, of course, is not that they’re “bad”, but rather that they’re BORING. All of them are plays off of real names, idioms or catchphrases, which is why they evoke smiles from readers.There’s nothing unique, memorable or distinguishing. One of my favorite usernames was The Goose Whisperer, written for a client named Bobbi in 2005. So if you’re wondering how to come up with a clever name that gets attention, and attracts a like-minded person with a great sense of humor, I have an exercise that can help you come up with usernames just like the ones I mention above.Bobbi had a farm with geese in the yard and instead of using The Horse Whisperer, which was way too overdone, we changed one word to great effect. It’s in Volume 2 of my Finding the One Online audio series, and is the cherry on top of your new online dating experience.The first step if you didn’t already know, is to have an attractive online dating profile photo to catch attention in the first place.Without a great photo the chances are your username won’t even matter.
A carefully created username will quite literally give you an edge over the online competition when coupled with an attractive profile photo.Examples of these are: • Negative • Pushy • Impatient • Rude • Loud • Bored • Lonely • Desperate Examples of poor username combinations are: • Single4Ever – Indicates the person has no hope. • Gr8t In Bed – Must be compensating for something. Examples of fun usernames are: • Sensible Shopper – Here’s a woman who can balance a check book.• Adventurous Asian – Someone who can keep me on my toes and we share similar culture.She is also the CMO at Instant Chemistry, a bio tech company based in Toronto specializing in genetic matchmaking.Carmelia has personally interviewed over 60,000 singles and helped over 7,000 clients with their search to finding, meeting and keeping someone special.