Dating again after widowhood
That was just the start—we wound up dating for eighteen months.
And after I’d fallen in love and spent countless hours entwined in the connection with him, I decided to stop seeing him.
For many widowers and widows, dating after a loss requires support and the empathetic company of people who understand the situation. We prioritize compatibility: matching personalities, locations and, crucially, life experiences.
It seem's as if I live in one room & I cant seem to do anything but sit in this one room for over a yr. I Thought I was a strong woman, when my first husband had cancer we had been married 23 yr.s We had 3 beatiful daughter's But Curt my second husband Helped me raise my youngest but he was so funny & so postive about everything! With all the Bills, & Trying to do everything right! He totally understood and we decided to talk more over the phone and get to know each other better to make me feel more comfortable. WHEN MY HUSBAND PASSED AWAY WE HAD 2 LIL GIRLS AGES 4 AND 7 WE WENT TO GREIVING COUNSELING FOR A YEAR.
But Iam Just plain Lost & Waiting to screw something up! I know deep in my heart that I'm not ready for a serious relationship but need the company so terribly bad. BUT I FELT IT JUST MADE IT HARDER AND WORSER TO GET THREW.
As psychotherapist Hilda Burke explains, everyone's experience is different and there are no hard rules about when to move on.
It's important to remember, though, that moving on is not about ‘replacing’ or ‘forgetting’ about your loved one – it's about allowing yourself room for both treasured memories and new happiness.