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If you don’t know, then you’re probably at least 40.As any high school or college kid could tell you, hooking up refers to the phenomenon in which two people—who may or may not know each other well, or at all—get together for the express purpose of fooling around, often after a lot of drinking.And with equality between the sexes now virtually a given, many women reject the traditional notion that while it’s fine for men to treat sex casually, a woman who does so is a slut. They say they’re just having fun, and that as long as both people understand the terms, it’s win-win.Technology also plays a role: Cell phone texting and social networking make it easier than ever to find people looking for the same thing you are. But some health professionals have raised alarms about the spread of sexually transmitted diseases, and warn that many young adults are paying a price for learning to divorce sex from feelings and attachment.As casually as the sexual encounter begins, so it often ends with no strings attached; after all, it was "just a hook up." While a hook up might mean anything from kissing to oral sex to going all the way, the lack of commitment is paramount.is an intimate look at how and why college students get together, what hooking up means to them, and why it has replaced dating on college campuses.“That fragmentation creates a lot of loneliness.” The alcohol factor Hooking up has accompanied another campus trend that has been a source of concern: heavy drinking.Alcohol-related deaths, binge drinking, and drunken driving have all been on the rise on college campuses over the past decade, a recent federal report found.
A 2007 survey found that men are more than three times as likely as women to feel satisfied after a one-night stand, while women are twice as likely to feel regret or shame.“In the hookup era, students hook up, which might lead to dating.” How common is it?For many young people, hooking up has become the most common way to begin sexual relationships.The book sheds light on everything from the differences in what young men and women want from a hook up to why freshmen girls are more likely to hook up than their upper-class sisters and the effects this period has on the sexual and romantic relationships of both men and women after college.Importantly, she shows us that the standards for young men and women are not as different as they used to be, as women talk about "friends with benefits" and "one and done" hook ups.