Initial stages of dating
You may continue to fantasize about the two of you getting back together, happily working through all of your issues.As reality sets in that the relationship is over, likely, you will begin to feel angry, according to Kromberg.
You’ll tell yourself you’ll never meet anyone else, that you’ll be alone forever, that if this relationship didn’t work no relationship ever will. The stories you tell yourself will feel true- maybe you’ll even rationalize them to the point where they seem like logical, obvious conclusions- but they’re not. Your mind will turn over the events of your relationship, wondering what you did wrong, because if you’re suffering so much you must have done something horribly wrong. You’ll tell yourself: “It’s all his fault” “I can’t believe what a [insert expletive] he is” “I’m lucky that’s over, I don’t even care about him anymore” Anger may feel like a relief from the sadness, but the narratives are still part of your psyche’s defense mechanism against the pain of the end of the relationship. At some point, you’ll reach some degree of acceptance about what’s happened.People in this stage may also try to get their friends and family to speak to their ex-partner for them, says Kromberg.During the grieving process, it is likely you will feel depressed and hopeless.This will give you a safe place to voice your thoughts and feelings without the fear of someone judging you.Acceptance allows you to come to peace with the loss of your relationship.