Is dating someone 10 years older wrong
To learn more about what these relationships are really like, ATTN: reached out to four people who have dated someone older than themselves via email about their experiences and relationship advice.When your partner looks visibly older than you, people might get a little nasty.George Clooney and his new wife, Amal Alamuddin, are the talk of the town.But, it’s not all good things, as there's also talk about their “bizarre” age gap: him 53, her 36.Courtney Croft, a 26-year-old Nashville-based anthropologist married to a 40-year-old man, explained that while she and her partner didn't encounter too many problems in their personal lives, other people didn't always react well to their relationship."Most of the issues stemmed from other people's initial negative reactions of us being together. I had some people flat out say it was gross that I was with someone so much older," Croft said."Or that certainly he had ill-intentions, because why else would a man his age be interested in someone so young?In fact, a Boston Globe report went a step further to chart Clooney’s age difference history with previous girlfriends, the average being 9.73 years.
She encouraged him to grow and be independent, he explained:"She's had enough experience both in life and relationships to know that we need to grow individually in order to grow together and that we need to always respect each other.
I spent so much time telling myself that age didn’t matter when in the end, it totally did," she reflected.
"Whenever we fought, I would vent to my good friend who was dating someone 10 years older than her at the time, and she would constantly tell me “It sounds like you responded perfectly for someone who is 22 years old.
It sounds like he’s not letting you be your age.""She also discovered that some of her partner's beliefs differed from hers, and realized that being younger didn't mean she was in the wrong."Realize that your older partner grew up with different values than you, (which, [for me] proved to be a feat as a feminist dating an older man from the deep south).
Be patient with one another," she explained in an email.